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How does the 455 compare to the pontiac 400 in physical size?
The 455 is basically the same size as the 400, difference is bore, stroke, main bolts and a few other minor changes.
Can you bolt a 700R4 to either the 455 or 400?
It will work with modifications,
http://transmissioncenter.net/700R4_Swap_Info.htm
What is the best choice for headers...as far as fitment is concerned?
I am happy with my Hookers.