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Talk about an uphill battle: Father/son restoration disagreements
So my dad is the one who bought me my 70 GTO I am restoring, and I've always been very grateful for not just the car but everything he's ever done for me (phone, schooling and housing through undergrad, insurance, taught me how to work hard, the list goes on). I've learned a lot from my dad and I owe him everything. But ever since I turned the first bolt on this car him and I have butted heads...
To my dad, almost nothing is worth doing if you can't make money in the end. And I understand that. He's a business guy and he is darn good at buying and selling and making money. The problem is, he doesn't understand why I ever tore apart a running driving GTO. Yes, he is right in a way. I never should have started a restoration while I was in college. I regret doing that and it was unintentional. What started out as a quick scuff n shoot became an all-out frame-off restoration before I even realized how deep into this car I was. That being said, I could have done one of three things: try to piece everything back together and put a cheap paint job on it, sell it for half its value, or see the job through and do it right. Given the circumstances I think I made the right decision and I have learned more than I ever could have imagined while working on this car.
However, he still reminds me every time the subject gets brought up that he told me to just drive it and enjoy it. He fails to understand that I've enjoyed working on the car and making it my own way more than I ever did driving it when it was in decent shape. And when I tell him I'm going to drive the car every day when I'm done he rips my a** because "there's no point to getting that car immaculate if you're just gonna drive it every day". ........ That's EXACTLY why I'm rebuilding it. I don't want a museum piece that sits in my garage. One thing I truly believe is that whether your car is worth $100 or $1,000,000, that car was build for one single purpose: TO BE DRIVEN.
It's a tough situation because he is helping me with the rebuild as far as finances go. But every time I mention something I wanna do to the car he ends up chewing me out and telling me how stupid I am and how much money I'm gonna lose when I sell it. And when I tell him I'm never going to sell it, that leads to another a** chewing about wasting my time on a car when I could be making money etc. He's not a strict dad by any means but he is stubborn and I can't seem to get him to see things from my point of view: Not everything has to have a monetary value to it, and the knowledge and experience I am gaining by restoring this car will far outweigh the costs.
I guess I'm just frustrated here. It would be nice if I said, "I wanna build a 428!" and he responded positively and excitedly instead of calling me a dumba** and said there was nothing wrong with the motor I have. This is just an example. Basically, I wish he showed a little more enthusiasm and encouragement for what I'm doing. I know sometimes it's a dad's job to do what he's doing, but right now I need encouragement. If I actually thought he was proud of me for what I'm doing maybe it would motivate me more. I'm sure when the car is done and he sees what I've accomplished things will change, but that's a while down the road. Any advice on this issue from some of you older gear heads with kids like me would be much appreciated. How do I get him to understand why I'm doing what I'm doing? How do I keep motivated if he's just gonna keep shooting me down every time we talk about the car? How do I understand where he's coming from better? Is there a middle ground here?
OK... rant of the month is over. Thanks in advance for any help.
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